"Heaven can wait, but Hell is too far to go, somewhere between what you need and what you know"
These lyrics are from the Charlotte Gainsbourg song, "Heaven Can Wait" give it a listen HERE. I love this so much because it illustrates how hard change truly is. Change is unfamiliar. She's saying that Heaven can wait, meaning she's not fully ready to let go of the old ways. But hell is too far to go- she knows how things will turn out if she goes back.
There is a part of change that isn't talked about which is the middle which inevitably can be quite messy. I know this is a hectic time but also change does not magically happen on January 1. This aspect of growth can feel so discouraging old habits start looking pretty tempting. Without perspective, it can seem like no progress is being made, or maybe things are even getting worse. Here are some things to keep in mind:
The Comeback is Always Bigger Than the Setback
Plan for setbacks. If you know they will happen and accept they are part of the process you're less likely to give up. It may feel like you are in the same place you started but progress is not linear it actually goes in an upward spiral. Try and find one aspect of progress that you made. You didn't work out last week but you went for a long walk? You ordered out more than you wanted this month but maybe cooked a healthy recipe in your rotation the other days? Did you reach out for help when you had a rough day? Acknowledging progress has a motivating effect.
Become the Main Character in Your Story
If you have spent any time on social media you know I didn't just make this up, but as the kids also say I am here for it. Recognize you are in the Eye of the Tiger montage just like in the movies. The lead tries and fails repeatedly but eventually wins the race and gets the guy or girl. Mistakes are how we learn. Stay present and recognize which behaviors feel good in the moment but make you feel utterly awful later and vice versa. Eventually you'll clear the wall and emerge victorious.
The Universe Hates a Void
As a semi-highly functioning dopamine addict (if you missed This is Your Brain on Pilates read it here) I love a to-do list. I love knowing what I'm doing next. I planned a relative's visit to Los Angeles by day, time and neighborhood not because she asked me to but because I enjoyed it. But that is how we get stuck. If we are always having to fill our schedule with commitments and our closets with things and our stomachs with snacks it doesn't leave any space for what we really want. Try to hang out for a bit in between in that space in between what you need and what you know.
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